You just walk up, look at them in the eyes, and say what you want... simply, directly and with all your love. They will cry, escape, run, drive away, and find any sort of way out. They will blame you for it, but you will stay. And you will again look at them. They will run and hide. And you will knock on their door. And it will be shut. Sometimes having a father is the best reality check anyone can have! I read somewhere that generally the mother provides unconditional love since you are an inseparable part of her. The father on the other side will be the measuring bar with the outside world. He will tell you whether you are capable or not and help you with his judgment. Their positive judgment is important to us. They will prepare us to live in a world that will not give us their unconditional love. I love this poem which I discovered preparing for one of my graduate classes.
Men
By Lydia Davis
There are also men in the world. Sometimes we forget, and think there are only women---endless hills and plains of unresisting women. We make little jokes and comfort each other and our lives pass quickly. But every now and then, it is true, a man rises unexpectedly in our midst like a pine tree, and looks savagely at us, and sends us hobbling away in great floods to hide in the caves and gullies until he is gone.
I am here to love and challenge myself. I am here to find truth!
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